After my post in January on feeling the blues, I’ve been trying to take stock and figure out the things that stress me out and I’ve been taking tiny steps to eliminate the triggers from my life, or find ways to deal with them if they won’t simply go away.
Huge thanks to everyone who sent me messages, commented and shared my January Blues post, it was the second most read post on my blog so I think it really struck a chord. It meant so much to know that I’m not alone, cant tell you how much the support helped. The biggest comment was about social media and how it skews our view on reality. So I’m trying to make my posts a little more real from now on.
A few thing that get to me.
2. My hoarding
3. Perfect lives of others
4. Lack of time to look after myself
As I’m incapable of asking for help I realised there’s only me that can do something about all of the above, so I’m really trying to pull myself out of the hole I seem to get myself in every year. It’s taken until the end of February to feel like I’m getting somewhere.
Problem: I never understood how people had a clean house, full time job, family and seem to be in full control of everything. I never had the house clean all at the same time, I would do a room at a time when I could fit it in. #busyfool
Solution: I’m my own boss right? So I’ve given myself every Wednesday off to do the things other people seem to do so easily. I clean the house all in one go. I also now don’t start work until 9.30 every day and spend half an hour just picking up socks, folding blankets, quick hoover and emptying the dishwasher. I’ve actually had a clean house now for 5 weeks in a row, it’s a bloody miracle!
Problem: This is maybe the hardest one and causes the most arguments in our house. Every upcycler knows you need to keep broken and unwanted things ‘just incase’. I’ve actually lost a whole room in our home to clutter so it’s time to reclaim the Room of Doom. I could have a whole craft room!
there’s a desk under there
Solution: I spotted a post on instagram about giving up clutter for lent so thats what I’ve done. I started the #40bagsin40days challenge. One bag a day seems doable and so far so good. I’ve cleared out my wardrobe and drawers, made a start on my sons wardrobe, sorted the kitchen pantry, and so far I’ve managed a bag a day – let’s hope I can keep it up until Easter.
Perfect lives of others
Problem: We’re all guilty of this – everyone else’s life is perfect, they have the perfect family, homes to die for, amazing work life balance… Wrong. Nobody has the perfect life, but we’re all guilty of posting the highlights and sharing the things we want people to see to portray our best selves.
Solution: I also started the #myhousethismonth challenge over on instagram and while doing this I made the decision to share the real life side to my home too. Here are some of my #StyledVsReality posts, I’m going to keep this up as it’s really helping me and hopefully helping others to realise we all live busy lives and its ok to not live in a show home.
hiding things out of shot
the reality of sunday mornings
magazine shoot and the real life of running a business
cropping in to show the best bits
magazine shot – real life tea making corner
gorgeous blankets versus washing day
Lack of time to look after myself
Problem: It’s hard running two businesses, keeping up with the social media that is part of my business, running a family, running a house, keeping up with family and friends, it’s really hard.
Solution: On my new day off I’m also trying to look after me. I’m trying to not feel guilty about reading a book, getting my nails done, meeting friends for coffee. Once the house is clean I’m looking after me. I’ve also started a mini exercise routine on a morning with my son. Working from home for three years hasn’t helped my waistline! So each morning me and my son do a few exercises before breakfast. It may not be much and may not help lose weight or tone up but it’s getting me into a routine and I think that’s really helping. I can also now do a 70 second plank!
Follow me on instagram for more #styledvsreality posts and watch me try to keep sane in the manic world we live in.
Thanks for reading